A Special Visit

 

Photo courtesy of Bev Wigney, Burning Silo blog

It is October 31st. We have had frost. We have had snow. Most of the insect life has gone into hibernation for the winter, or migrated to winter homes. And THAT is why this story is all the more special.

I went back to work this week. Although my manager in Montreal has been very sympathetic telling me to take all of the time I needed, it really is better for me to be doing something rather than sitting around the house, cycling into a downward spiral. This was actually a good week for me to go back – as it started with two days of meetings on our SAP conversion in Montreal. That gave me the opportunity to be with team members, but not with people who had actually known Chris.

The logic was faulty, in that my co-workers in Montreal also wanted to offer condolences, and I started each day off with a good cry. I guess this is going to take longer than I thought, but at least people are understanding.

Wednesday was back to Barrie – and back to my regular routines. They are difficult, but I’m managing. I actually survived my first day back at the office not too badly, mostly in part to several conference calls I was required for.

But Thursday, something extraordinary happened. I have came down with bronchitis (that’s not extraordinary). Whether it is a result of being confined on an airplane with someone sneezing and coughing, or just from being run down I can’t say. My throat and ears are sore, so I decided I wanted something hot for lunch. Chris is no longer here to pack my lunch for me, so I had to go out. As I sat at a traffic light, a small dragonfly landed on my windshield. Although it wasn’t exactly like the one pictured, (it was only about 3/4″ long and had a white spot on its head), it was a bright emerald green and I couldn’t miss it. It hovered a couple of times landing right in my field of vision on the windshield, then hovered around to the side and landed on the driver’s door window. My first inclination was to put down the window and try to catch it…but that would have meant certain death for it. Then the light changed, and before the car in front of me moved, the dragonfly departed for places unknown.

A dragonfly in winter? I thought I was losing my mind.

But the more I think about it, I think it was a sign. While maybe not Chris himself, a sign to show me that he’s okay now.

Then in searching for a photo to use for this post, I searched through hundreds of images of dragonflies, and kept being attracted to ones taken by Bev Wigney, who writes the Burning Silo blog. I wrote to Bev this morning asking for permission to use one of her photos, and explained the story and the connection to Chris’ Dragonfly Theory. Bev replied that I was welcome to use her photo, and explained that she herself lost her husband after a long illness in September. Surprisingly with a worldwide selection of photos, I chose one from someone also from Ontario. Could it be that two spirits from the other side colluded to put us in touch?

CHRISTOPHER CHARLES SHAW – FEBRUARY 20, 1964 – OCTOBER 17, 2008

It still seems to me to be a very bad dream, and that Chris is going to shake me awake and tell me that is all it was.

Thank you to everyone who has written to express condolences, and to those who came to the house to visit over the weekend.

I’ve lost my friend, my love and my soulmate, but there was no way that I could bear to keep him in agony to extend his time in our world.

Chris believed that death was nothing to fear. He said we were like the larvae of dragonflies swimming in a pond, and knowing only that world. When one member leaves to emerge as a dragonfly in the world beyond the familiar pond, the remaining members know only of its disappearance leaving behind an empty husk, because they know no other world.

Fly free my Dragonfly….until we meet again.

All my love,
Shelley

As Chris wished, he was cremated today, and will come home to remain on the farm. In the spring we plan to plant a Red Oak for Chris on the front lawn in front of the office window as a memorial, and to invite everyone together again to celebrate his life.

For those who have asked, his family and I have decided that in lieu of flowers, Chris would have really appreciated a donation to Corgiaid Inc be made, to protect the corgis he loved so much.

Taking a second to breathe…

Hi all,

Well life definitely has a way of throwing curve balls when you least expect it Things had been far too uneventful in life for it to continue that way for long.

I thought September 2001 was the worst month ever with Bill and my father dying within 17 days of each other. September 2008 is not all that far behind with Chris spending all but single days in and out of the hospital. The bad news is that he is sick, very sick. The good news is that, hopefully, modern medicine can deal with the multiple issues, a donor can be found and in time he will recover.

The ambulance in the driveway waking me up at 3 a.m. was a wake up call in more ways than one this morning and it is time to make some serious decisions about how we will handle the upcoming medical odyssey.

I mentioned that we were going to be looking at placing some of the dogs. I’ve tried to get pictures but without a photographer’s assistant and running to emergency rooms every weekend its been tough.

So here is what I was able to come up with.

First here is Corey – Yasashiikuma Encore Performnce (Click on the pictures to enlarge them)


Yes, he’s a stunning boy and should have been a show puppy, but he has one testicle. It’s a heartbreak but it is time to let him go to a home where he will be someone’s well loved pet. He had both at 7 weeks according the vets notes, but not recently.

This is the pedigree for both Corey and Sam

PARENTS GRANDPARENTS GREAT GRANDPARENTS GREAT GREAT GRANDPARENTS
Am./Cdn. Ch. Merrymoon Firestorm MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Pirate’s Patch Am. Ch. Joster Geefax JW, HC, ROMS Daleviz Vermillion
Jezalin Phantasia
Am./Cdn. Ch. Kentwood Lyneth ROMS Eng. Ch. Downholme Silversand of Joseter
Eng. Ch. Kentwood Bethan
Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Unforgettable MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG Am./Cdn. Ch. Salvenik Sea Treasure ROMS
BISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi’s Amazing Grace Ap Ronel
Am./Cdn. Ch. Rikarlo American Phi Eng. Ch. Joseter Joson ROMG
Joseter Benita
Am./Cdn. Ch. Yasashiikuma Scirocco Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Uriel Of Caerleon Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Peter Pan MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG
Phi-Vestavia Kalypso
Am. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Trouble In Chaos MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG
Phi-Vestavia Dresden Doll HX
Phi-Vestavia Storm Of Yasashiikuma Am./Cdn. Ch. Merrymoon Firestorm MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Pirate’s Patch
Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Unforgettable
BISS Am. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Good Gracious ROMB MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG
Am. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Luck Be A Lady ROMG

Then we have Corey’s litter brother Sam – Yasashiikuma Play it Again Sam

I couldn’t get a decent side shot of Sam…he was too busy running everywhere! He has better body length and a deeper brisket than Corey and is a good clean little mover. His right ear is up, his left 3/4 up (I need to tape it again, once again lack of hands isn’t helping!). I woiuld be willing to consider a co-ownership for Sam if the right situation was found with the right person. He doesn’t have as much flash as Corey, but has better bone, and has been the choice of most people who have gone over them.

And then we have Jonathon – Yasashiikuma Highway to Heaven



Jon just turned two and he has Canadian championship points. He is a willing and loving male, who only wants to do what you ask. When he is on lead his eyes never leave your face looking for clues as to what you might want him to do. He is an avid soccer player and will chase one of his Jolly balls around the yard throwing it with his head, and dribbling it around the other dogs. Libby is starting to pick up his joy in the game, but has no where near his talent!

I think Jon would make someone a wonderful obedience or agililty prospect. He should also finish his championship once his chest drops (he’s taking his time maturing), but that isn’t as important as finding the right home for him. Ideally a fenced yard where he could continue to play soccer, and a single dog home or with a female would be perfect.

As for children, Jon is fine around children who sit and pet him, but he doesn’t play well with yelling, screaming, running children. He thinks it is a herding game, and chasing and barking scares them so they run faster and he gets more excited, in an increasing spiral. A young teen interested in having a companion he’s perfect for. He’ll sit in the grass and lean against you as you contemplate the world. He sits with my 5 year old grandaughter as she pats him, so its not a dislike of children, just a confusion on how to play with them.

PARENTS GRANDPARENTS GREAT GRANDPARENTS GREAT GREAT GRANDPARENTS
Merrymoon-Pluperfect Pony Xpress Merrymoon Noblestar Jacob Cdn. Ch. Mazara Merrymoon Reggae Bob Am. Ch. Rhydowen I Be Jammin NA TT
Cardach’s Happy Blu Bootes
Am./Cdn. Ch Merrymoon Devil Woman US/UK/Can Ch Phi-Vestavia Evan Evans
Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Unforgettable
Am. Ch. Pluperfect Pennyroyal Am. Ch. Pluperfect Pennywise US/UK/Can Ch Phi-Vestavia Evan Evans
Am. Ch. Windshyre’s Murphie Brown
Am. Ch. Windshyre’s Murphie Brown Am. Ch. Pluperfect Garvins Peerless
Am. Ch. Sisterwood’s Serendipity
Phi-Vestavia Storm Of Yasashiikuma Am./Cdn. Ch. Merrymoon Firestorm MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Pirate’s Patch Am. Ch. Joster Geefax JW, HC, ROMS
Am./Cdn. Ch. Kentwood Lyneth ROMS
Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Unforgettable MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG
Am./Cdn. Ch. Rikarlo American Phi
BISS Am. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Good Gracious ROMB MBISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Nautilus PT, CGC, TDI, ROMG Am./Cdn. Ch. Salvenik Sea Treasure ROMS
BISS Am./Cdn. Ch. Phi’s Amazing Grace Ap Ronel
Am. Ch. Phi-Vestavia Luck Be A Lady ROMG Eng. Ch. Joseter Joson ROMG
Am./Cdn. Ch. Kentwood Lyneth ROMS

If you know of anyone who might be interested in any of these boys please drop me a line. Calls are okay, but realize that between work, the hospital, and the animals its getting more and more difficult to catch me near a phone.

Thanks!